Sweetpea Gal

Some people live the good life, others, the useless life. I know of a couple who can’t go a day without fighting. Constant bickering and abuses, insults and malice. This man beats his so called wife on a regular basis. He goes out to have fun with younger ladies and sometimes brings them to his matrimonial bed. The woman too goes out to find pleasure in other men as payback to her husband, yet they both have kids who look up to them. Hardly do they show interest in Yahuah’s word, which is able to build them up. When you hear the words that come out of these two, you’d wonder why they even got together in the first place. Yes, even siblings quarrel. It’s natural for a couple to disagree once in a while. But when it becomes a constant thing between a couple, it’s unhealthy for the relationship and also unhealthy for everyone around them.

A wise man once said, “Your mouth is your meter. A man’s maturity is measured by his mouth.” A while ago, I’d reply to every wrong word that was said to me, leaving the person even more sorry for speaking to me in that manner. Now, I’ve learned that not every action requires a reaction. It’s easier to just look the other way. When you ignore a person who needs your attention badly, it sends the message across perfectly. If that person was truly at fault, they would realize that and apologize. Why? Because you handled the matter maturely. Same goes for handling disagreements in a relationship. You both don’t need to talk at the same time!

Sometimes, it’s also good to sit down and talk things out with your partner. There’s no need to raise voices. Your partner should be your best friend. If you’re not comfortable with something he or she did, why not express yourself in a calm manner? I know how it feels to not speak to that one person who matters so much to you. It’s okay to ask, “Is everything okay with us?” That way, you know what’s happening, and you both can settle your differences. That’s because happiness is yours to create.

Every day fight between a couple would not only destroy that relationship, it would also destroy the couple psychologically. Galatians 5:22-23 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such, there is no law.” You can’t give what you don’t have. Whatever is on the inside of you is definitely what you’d bring out. Even when people hurt you, ignore or reply them in the most polite way and with a smile on your face.

Be at peace with your partner because in the place of unity, there is clarity of vision and purpose. In the place of unity, the power of Yahuah moves so easily. When there is peace, it’s easy to think. There wouldn’t be prosperity if there isn’t unity. The gains of unity are enormous. On the flip side, in the atmosphere of hatred, anger and unforgiveness, our Elohim can’t function there because He is love. It becomes easy for you to dream and to actualize your dreams when there’s unity. You’re the one that creates the atmosphere.

Spend more time with those who spend their time positively, and let your life reflect the Messiah, Yahusha . There’s no growth outside of Yahuah’s word. Make a choice today: the good life, or the useless life.